“Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.” - Matthew 5:23, 24.
Another basic procedure for effective communication in marriage is to be willing to take the initiative. Don't wait for your partner to take the first step.
The text for today says, “go thy way, first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift”. You can't restore communication unless you approach your partner in a spirit of meekness; you must be a spiritual person yourself. If you are a godly person, it is your burden and your responsibility to take the initiative when you have offended the other party in the marriage as we are enjoined in the text for the day. And if someone else has offended you to the point that is robbing you of your peace, then you again are to take the initiative - Matthew 18:15.
What if someone else has offended you? The Bible says you still are to take the initiative. It is still your burden, your responsibility. Matthew 18:15 says, “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.” Here you haven't done the offending, it is the other party who has done something wrong. It would be natural to assume that the other person should come and ask you for forgiveness. But don't wait; you initiate the communicating. You go to him or her and take the initiative. Open yourself up; be vulnerable or to use the language of Apostle Paul, “suffer yourself to be defrauded”.