Marriage is a legal union of a man and a woman as husband and wife or the state of being married. It goes beyond mere living together voluntarily-what Americans call “shacking up” of couples. God instituted marriage as an avenue not only for procreation (Genesis 1:26–28) but also for companionship so that the husband and wife may achieve peace and true happiness in mutual affection and love for each other through effective communication. At its basic level, communication is the process of exchanging or passing information from one person to another. It entails imparting ideas and making oneself understood by others. At a more complex level however, communication provides a way of motivating and influencing people.
“For if thou altogether holdest thy peace at this time, then shall there enlargement and deliverance arise to the Jews from another place; but thou and thy father's house shall be destroyed: and who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” - Esther 4:14.
The purpose of discussing family foundations from a biblical perspective, is to aid the reader to recognize and avoid the difficulties that arise from non-communication in marriage and that have a way of threatening the stability of the Christian home. The words in the text for today was part of the message sent by Mordecai the Jew to Esther the Queen urging her to open lines of communication with the king in order to save the Jews from danger. Danger was actually averted because Esther braved the odds to speak to the king which enabled him to get a clearer picture of the situation and to act accordingly. It is said that (1) Speech is one symptom of affection but silence is deadly; (2) Much unhappiness has come into the world because of refusal to communicate. How true are these statements! Some people hardly talk to each other. They live as strangers in the same house. This is very bad and socially dangerous. Couples should learn to talk. (Proverbs 25:9) Some couples before they got married, have so much to talk about but after marriage they progressively have less and less to talk about. When we remember that marriage enables two different people to come together to help one another, we can see the danger in such lifestyle. See Ecclesiastes 4:9-12