Theme: SPIRITUAL KEYS TO HAPPINESS
Text: “It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.” – Proverbs 21:19
Comment: Marriage to a quarrelsome, troublesome man or woman would certainly kill one’s happiness. King Solomon further states: “A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.” (Proverbs 27:15; 25:24) Esau married a troublesome women, “Judith the daughter of Beeri the Hittite, and Bashemath the daughter of Elon the Hittite: Which were a grief of mind unto Isaac and to Rebekah”. (Genesis 26:34, 35) Though a writer, Jane Austen says in the novel Pride and Prejudice that “happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance” one can take some basic precautions to avoid being married to a “shrew”, a woman who quarrels, nags and is ill-mannered. Marrying one who is bitterly opposed to one’s faith breeds clashes, even compromises that offend the conscience. In that case, the seed of discord is sown in the marriage from the beginning.
However, one should be ready and willing to make the necessary sacrifices that would ensure peace in one’s marriage, without denying one’s faith. This may entail avoiding certain personal and social habits, expressions, friendships, even foods which create unnecessary frictions. It is true that the people one relates with affect one’s outreach, thoughts, actions – for evil communication corrupts good manners. (1 Corinthians 15:33) Solomon advises us thus: “Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.” – Proverbs 22:24, 25.